On dating sites, male questionnaires often contain phrases: I will meet a slim, beautiful, well-groomed girl. Further, the size of the breast, height, weight and other parameters can even be specified.
On the streets of the city, young ladies with bright looks, brightly and fashionably dressed, make the heads of representatives of the strong half of humanity take turns almost 180 degrees. Even relatives and friends, appreciating the choice of their loved one, respond with approval in the spirit: "And she's nothing, pretty so."
Under the desire of a young man to choose a female for a couple with fashionable external data in this century or season, the scientific base is being brought. They say that it is important for men to reproduce healthy offspring, and beautiful girls are a priori exceptionally healthy and prolific.
The influence of society
It is believed that women are subject to the influence of so-called public opinion. Therefore, they are vigorously struggling with excess weight, cellulite, plastic surgery, seeking to get married and have a child under 25, choose strong macho husbands and so on.
But men, oddly enough, also people and also live in the same society. And from TV screens, pages of glossy magazines, advertisements look stunning beauties with feet from their ears and a third bust size looking at them.
And then another longtime friend Vasya married a model with platinum hair and proudly displays it in the light.
The desire to be like everything is especially characteristic of young people and adolescents, and it is at this age that relationships and first lovers arise. So, our men are looking for beauties, so as not to be worse than others, not to surrender to the hypothetical Vasya. And it is more pleasant to look to caress gentle features, and in bed the slender body causes more lust.
Although there is such a science - psychology, where it is stated that a man is more attracted to a woman, somehow resembling his mother. Appearance, demeanor, character. And mothers - they are different. Even in young years, not every mother could boast of model data. More often, these were ordinary women chosen by our dads, just loving their son.
Behind a stylish appearance can be hiding both a good soul and a rare bitch. With more intimate communication there is a considerable chance to stumble upon unattractive personal qualities or just the wrong person. The bride is all good, but she does not meet the deep spiritual needs of the young man. In this case, the result is natural: first, patient waiting, the desire to adapt to another person, then reproaches, scandals and divorce.
Jealousy
There is such a category of men - jealous. Probably, this is not very good, but the fact remains that they occur quite often. By their nature, men are proprietors and cannot tolerate it when someone attempts something that, it seems to them, only they themselves have the right to do.
Women beauties always attract outsiders. Sometimes it is purely aesthetic admiration, and sometimes quite obvious lust. The girl herself may have nothing to do with it, just not paying attention to her is impossible even for a saint. How would her legitimate husband behave?
A calm and confident man probably will not attach much importance to this, although if you explicitly harass his wife, you will lose any emotional balance. But the reaction of a jealous person is quite predictable. Starting with the reproaches addressed to his wife, ending with the situation described by William Shakespeare. Imaginary or real rival will also have a hard time.
Being a jealous wife is not easy for any woman, and even a written beauty - all the more so. It will be difficult for the man himself to transfer all interested views aimed at his half. Even if he understands and realizes everything, the heartache will be difficult to pacify and drown out.
Mating market
In our pragmatic time, everything (or almost everything) has its price, it is sold and bought. There was no exception and the marriage market, no matter how cynical it may sound. The girls sit on diets, do fitness, turn to plastic surgery, stylists, fashion designers, nail service masters are not for health reasons. Successful marriage has become for many the purpose of life.
Successful marriage is often associated with a rich, beautiful and promising husband. On the secured bachelor goes hunting. Modern Cinderellas do not expect gifts from fairies, they arrange meetings with princes themselves. A girl should be fully armed with dazzling beauty. Often their efforts reach their goal. Bright appearance, stylish clothes, a good knowledge of male psychology - and the man’s head is spinning from happiness and love.
Already in wedlock, it turns out that a woman does not need her husband’s love, but her wallet or social status. You can imitate orgasm, but you can not imitate love. Even a rich and high-ranking person has a soul that needs warmth and closeness, which the young predator cannot give. Then the inhabitants will learn about the scandalous divorce with the division of property from the yellow press.
Loneliness as a choice
People in the world are different. Explicit leaders and life-long outsiders, noisy extroverts and unsociable introverts, mathematicians and humanities. Someone can not be alone, and someone hard to be in a crowd.
The concept of "old bachelor" has long been known. It applies to both sexes. It's just that a person is comfortable living alone. The appearance of another in his life is akin to a catastrophe, it breaks his whole habitual way.
And the bachelor is not necessarily neglected, closed and shy away from the opposite sex type. Although there are such too. But nowadays lonely people who deliberately chose such a way of life are often educated, intelligent and socially adapted.
Bachelors can be quite active, they are happy to meet with women, communicate, give birth to novels. But only. Their plans do not include marriage. Sometimes the unearthly beauty of another passion, combined with its persistent desire to create a social unit of society, forces one to surrender the convinced alone. As a result, our hero can say goodbye to peace of mind. He no longer belongs to himself, an unceremonious "we" invaded his life. As a result, both are unhappy: he is due to interference with his personal space, she is due to his callousness and coldness.
So, what is more important for a man: marry a beauty or keep peace of mind? Probably, such a question is not entirely correct. The opposition is appropriate only if a person goes against his true self, submitting to pressure from outside: the society or its individual representatives, for example, parents, friends or the beauty itself.
But what is beauty ?!
But the most important question: what is female beauty? It is so individual and subjective that it is impossible to derive a beauty formula. For the lover, the subject of his sighs is always full of perfection, no matter how others think.
The main thing is to feel your soul and act solely on its orders. Then it will not be necessary to make such an unnecessary and absurd choice between a beautiful woman and inner comfort - you will have both.
