Unfortunately, the inspiring feeling of love is not forever. Gradually, feelings are dulled, the loved one doesn’t care, as before, passion passes and cooling begins. For those who do not want to put up with this state of affairs and are willing to work hard to revive the former urgency of relations, we will open the secret and tell you what are the secrets of saving relationships.
Secret 1. Appreciate the memories
The easiest way to refresh the memory of the reasons why you chose this particular person is to return to the past in your mind. Connect the figurative memory, remember the sensations that your beloved woke up with his presence. Try again to experience the sensations of his touch, first date, kiss. According to experts, these feelings are psychological anchors, which can be your favorite melody, the places where your exciting dates took place.
Unfortunately, it will not be possible to resurrect the past, but these memories will allow you to once again experience what you have experienced before. Stay together, go somewhere together, look at the general photos and think together about what you are missing in your relationship today.
Secret 2. It is what it is. And this is great!
Psychologists are advised to accept each other as you are, with all your shortcomings, zamorochkami, annoying habits. After all, everyone understands that people without flaws simply do not exist. In the initial stages of love, it all levels up, it can even be said, it blinds. However, the gradual addiction, everyday life opens his eyes to a partner, begins to emphasize something that had not even been paid attention to before. Scattered socks or slurping out of a cup no longer seems sweet, gradually what caused a smile and a fit of tenderness goes away, it becomes more and more difficult to put up with irritating moments.
Happy relationships are formed only when we are not only aware of the bad qualities of our partner, but are also ready to accept them. You say it is difficult? Maybe. However, there are ways to do this. For example, talk to your beloved about what annoys you. But remember - this should be done delicately, without offending your partner. Tell us that you really appreciate it and are grateful for many things, but there is something that can be changed for the better. Psychologists are confident that this approach will allow you on the one hand to show your love, and on the other - not to cause discontent with your partner.
Secret 3. Do not stand still. Be creative!
It is impossible to live in the past, no matter how good it is. The insight comes and the reality ruins everything: life takes a lot of energy and feelings are gradually dulled. Gradually, there is a need for novelty, new emotional experiences. Therefore, experts recommend to invent and implement pleasant events for both partners.
Nobody says that the attempts will be exactly as they were imagined. But, you see, it is better to try to do something, than with your hands down, to watch how the relationship finally gets rid of itself.
Curiously, after divorces, many former spouses begin to nostalize about the past, recalling the communication, warmth and care that they gave their half. Try to understand the absence of something in your beloved would make you sad. Perhaps this will be the main to restore the relationship. Already more serious and stable.
Secret 4. Change
Nostalgic about past feelings, we, as a rule, feel ourselves as those people whom, alas, is no longer. Although, curiously, we are dissatisfied with what is happening here and now. Unfortunately, it is not always possible to clearly understand how the people themselves in a couple have changed during the life of the relationship. Growing up should be accompanied by the emergence of wisdom, an essential element of a full-fledged adulthood, without which we would still be infantile adolescents. Remember that those who you are now are partly the merit of your partner.
Secret 5. Miss
How long have you missed each other? Anxiously awaited the meeting, every minute waiting for a phone call? Today it is quite difficult: sms and social networks have created not only the illusion of full communication, but also a real presence. However, separation is necessary. It refreshes the senses, makes them more acute. Therefore, talk to each other only when there is a strong need to share something. Psychologists say: to be closer, sometimes you need to be a little further from each other.
